Many highly accomplished women I work with have achieved incredible results in their career or business, fulfilling their material needs in every possible direction and living picture-perfect lives. However, their lives are often one-sided, where their innermost pleasure is lacking or missing entirely. So how can they take relationships to the next level?
While hidden from human eyes, energetically, there is a wall around them that shelters the loneliness in their hearts. Ironically I see it in both scenarios: being single and being in a partnership. There is a deep hunger for love and a more profound connection with their loved ones.
Just as one client of mine dreamt about having these fulfilled, expanding relationships from a place of pure love and strong connection backed up by peaceful serenity, but it was not happening. She would wake up in the morning thinking: “something feels profoundly wrong, but I just can’t seem to get the hang of it and have a better relationship”.
Every morning sitting in a yogi position, legs crossed with the backs of her hands resting on her knees, she would touch the feelings of deep connection, love, and excitement. Bathing herself in loving energy, she envisioned her new life, just to then make a delicious mango dragon fruit smoothie and sadly wonder, “so what’s the point?”. And in merely a second, the unavoidable weight of high-level responsibilities shut these feelings down to just get through the day and follow through with a never-ending to-do list.
But taking her attention outwards, it only worsened, resulting in relentless frustration, lowering her standards, and finally, the willingness to settle for less – a form of subconscious resignation.
What was really going on was that deep inside, she had beliefs about the world where the love she was longing for belonged exclusively in the fairytale movies, and should it ever be possible in real life, she was simply unworthy of that.
The overwhelming fear of losing love, deeply rooted in a traumatic experience she had as a child and, later on, a distressing relationship in adulthood, made her keep pushing through. Despite being clearly unhappy, she hung on to the hope of making the relationship work.
During our work together, one of the most crucial life-changing achievements was the realization and the full embodiment of love as a sacred force within herself.
Thinking that the love we receive from another is because of the other is false. The deeper truth is that you feel the love that YOU are in the presence of the other. So, you can’t lose love. Once you truly feel it with all your senses, it sets you free. When you know it is not the other person who is giving you the love, you feel your own love in their presence, and then you have even more love to give, and they are free to do the same. They are not clutched by you with you wanting them to be or act in a certain way in order to be there and love you.
It is the love that you are that is reflected in the face of our partner. And the way he is with you. You are the love. It’s not that he’s got the love, and it comes towards you, and then he takes it back. He is reflecting you back to yourself. And therefore, if what’s reflected back to you does not fulfill you, you have to go within: first to unveil the disconnection from love inside of you, working on your past wounds to then, after the inner work has been done, to rebirth back into love.
Her healing journey with me set my client on an entirely new path where with time, she was gifted the most beautiful surprise and blessing of her life: the partnership that entirely fulfills her soul.
You can imagine that you stand at a fork in the road. The path that leads straight ahead is the one you’ve always been on, and you know the future is a repetition of all you’ve experienced. However, the path to the right has the work that we can do together.
I know the unknown can be scary, but nothing can be as terrifying as an endless repetition of what you have already lived. When you confront the legacy of your past in this way, all that you are left with is peace and a complete embodiment of love. And all this is available to you when you choose to be guided towards releasing the limiting and sabotaging stories that are stored deep within your subconscious mind.
You truly deserve to enjoy your life the way you are meant to, and this should include achieving fulfillment in your love life, not only your career.
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Text by Marina Sigalova
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