Modern relationships between men and women are rapidly transforming. Gradually, both partners contribute equally to them, as they are interested in creating a favorable space for each other. Creating a foundation of shared values and common interests is the first step towards forging happy and harmonious relationships.
Based on my experience, I would like to note that the involvement and proactivity of young people are particularly pleasing. I examine various clinical cases, and in many of them, the contribution of men is not inferior to what women do. Statistics show that men now analyze their behavior more, take the initiative to communicate with their partners, resolve disputes, and try to come up with favorable solutions to any issues that arise.
Such observations are evidence that relationships are getting much better. Now, men minimize their extramarital affairs, as they are no longer interested in obtaining necessary resources through physical intimacy with multiple partners. Today, a man tends to seek a woman who responds to him mentally and not just physically.
This is a huge breakthrough because now a young man approaches the idea of relationships and their further development more consciously, having previously formed himself as an individual and identified his true needs. He seeks a partner who complements his true essence.
That is why the entire “plastic beauty empire” is losing its uniqueness and effectiveness. Each woman has her potential. What is inherent in us by nature is the strongest magnet for men and a source of resources for implementing their needs. But some girls begin to change their appearance through cosmetology or surgery without getting to know themselves and “blossoming” fully. Thus, they hinder themselves from finding the right partner.
Girls sensitive to fashion trends and innovations in the beauty industry become similar to each other. I am sure you have noticed such women on the street, in the subway, or in photos on social media. Now it is difficult to distinguish one from another. This trend only increases the gap between a woman and her desire to find a worthy partner.
It erases important markers by which young people could distinguish her from others and choose her as a companion. In simple terms, she gets rid of her “uniqueness” by wearing an outfit that does not emphasize her individuality and style but fits perfectly into Instagram’s feed. Procedures for lip augmentation, breast augmentation, and any other body modification surgeries imposed from the outside do not highlight her strengths but rather turn her into a cliché.
A woman who copies someone else’s appearance risks living someone else’s life, never revealing her true self. Wearing someone else’s reflection is the death of the self.
Today, it is more important to get to know and accept yourself before entering into a relationship with a partner. When you are honest with yourself, you attract into your field a person who is suitable not for a mask of pretense but for your true essence. This approach contributes to the formation of successful, long-lasting, and happy relationships. People begin their journey hand in hand, moving towards success, new opportunities, discoveries, and breakthroughs. Such partners are united not only by mutual attraction, passion, or mutual benefits. Here they are replaced by common spiritual values, creative interests, and ideas that mutually inspire each other. This connection is much stronger, and therefore joint plans become large-scale, realistic, and achievable. Mature partners not only dream but also act. Day by day, a man and a woman make a feasible contribution to a happy future together.
When such stories become more frequent, this is good news. This is evidence that progress in psychology and the work of many specialists in related fields have not been in vain.
As people today immerse themselves more in spiritual development, their perception of the world is radically changing. They are interested in building a comfortable space around themselves, identifying their place in life, and finding their life purpose. And when a person grows spiritually, it is reflected in his or her genetic program. The level of anxiety, doubts, and cognitive distortions decreases. The transformation of the consciousness of men and women unites them and creates strong connections that lead to harmonious relationships in a couple.
Breakups should also be seen as a new stage in development. It helps to find a partner who fully meets the new criteria and needs. Meetings and breakups are necessary experiences for improving the quality of one’s life.
Text by Dr. Esther Vavilonskaya, Psychologist
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