We come into this world through a mother. Even before birth, we learn a lot about the world and ourselves through it. Is this world good enough for me? Am I good enough for this world? Do I have the right to be in this world the way I am? Relationships with a mother (or a significant adult who plays the role of a mother) in a special way, are reflected in our ability to trust, love, and receive love, take and give. Our understanding of security, freedom, and self-esteem depends on how they developed. In aromatherapy, essential oil of lavender creates a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere, relieves nervous tension, extinguishes seething emotions, and helps with physical and mental pain. It helps with sleep disorders and is ideally “friendly” with children.
In Aroma psychology, the information and vibration embedded in the essential oil of Lavender transmit either a positive aspect, when a mother is at the center of her life, she is in contact with her child, feels his talents, and helps to reveal them. She releases her child into the world on time. Or the negative aspect – the mother is not in the center of her life, the child is standing there, she lives his life. A child cannot grow up and build his own personal boundaries or find himself.
Affection with the mother can be healthy, developmental, and negative, holding back maturation. Separation from the mother is an important step in becoming an adult. What influences the figure (image) of a mother in an adult:
Attitude towards oneself, attitude towards people, attitude towards the world, and life in general.
Here are the topics related to the image of the mother:
-Perception of the real mother and relationship with her at present, the level of intimacy.
-Perceptions of a partner, relationships with the opposite sex, and the ability to be in a contact with others while remaining oneself. Secure attachment/ affection.
-Taking care of yourself, accepting and not accepting yourself (as my mother treated me, so I treat myself)
-The ability to live feelings and emotions, the ability to experience mixed feelings, you can love and be angry at the same time, and experience the bad without losing touch with the good.
-Ability to cope with stress.
-A positive image of myself because half of me is from my mum (if my mother is good, then I am good).
-Attitude towards parenthood, motherhood (what kind of mother I’m for my child?) Attitude towards the feminine gender and women in general.
-Basic trust and distrust of the world, a sense of security, fulfillment, contentment, and abundance.
“Little tips” for use of essential oil of lavender:
-If you lack motherly support and care, then apply 1 drop of Lavender oil to your palms, take a deep breath and remember something pleasant associated with your Mum in childhood.
-Take a bath with Lavender oil (1 tablespoon of salt + 4-7 drops) for relaxation during stress and apathy.
-Massage (4 drops of Lavender oil + 10 ml of base oil) apply to the temples, shoulders, and back. Oil will relieve tension, and headache, give peace and creativity and eliminate tearfulness and hysteria.
-Put 1 drop of oil on your pillow for a good night’s sleep.
We wish you peace and an excellent relationship with your mother.
Text by Elena Mechta
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